The only gays who are sick of it are the ugly ones that can't get laid. In manospheres, the term for women is "hit the wall". It's all degenerate fun until you get a beer belly and can't even pull 6s when you used to pull 8s. Now, they want their steady relationship. Exact same trope in the straight community with women.
Also, with the huge push to put gays in all the best jobs in the professional world, many gays can't be degenerate in public for fear of losing their jobs so they don't mind presenting the optics of "not wanting the degeneracy" since they themselves aren't even allowed to partake anymore.
Everything is moving underground and overseas again. Too many people with cameras and the corporate world is extremely feminized in the puritan/no-fun theme such that it doesn't tolerate anything that could harm their reputation. But there's still tons of the same old degeneracy, it's just happening at parties no one realizes is happening like when you heard a little about the San Francisco tech sex parties when that hit the news.
Gays also aren't too friendly with trans because while gays were trying to keep a lower profile, trans blew up for 0 to gain for the rest of the gay community.